Stress 911 Kit

I’m thinking of changing my life focus.  I started learning about stress because I was under stress.  I learned so many great stress-reduction strategies that people started calling me a “Stress Expert.” I prefer the term “Stress Survivor.”  In any case, it appears that God or the Universe, or whatever you think of as our higher power, has decided that He will give me more and more and even MORE experience with stress, so that I get reeeeeeaaaaaalllllyyyy good at it.   So maybe, just maybe,
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Stress Tip: Seeing Patterns? Look for Resistance

I realized yesterday that, once again, I am the source of much of the stress in my life. Ouch. For example, I received a voicemail from Revenue Canada about a delinquent corporate tax debt. Instant stress! Bottom line is that I was totally offloading responsibility for all Revenue Canada correspondence and payments to my accountant, even though we have prior experience of a former accountant not fulfilling her duties in this regard.  Rather than taking charge to ensure this never happens again,
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3 Powerful Positive Practices for Releasing Fear

There’s a Chinese proverb that says, “May you live in interesting times.” In my travels, I’ve noticed that there are plenty of people who are wishing the times weren’t quite so interesting! “Interesting” is a term that for so many people means fear, and this saddens me, as fear prevents you from living your best life. Detaching from fear allows you to step into your “bigger self” into a place of love and appreciation, and that’s going to benefit both you and other people. As the Joy Strategist,
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Stress 911: Take a “Stress Escape”

If you feel like your head is going to explode from stress, chances are good that you are right. So the very best thing you can do, after seeing your doctor, is to get away somewhere, whether for an afternoon or a vacation. Taking a break from the stressors in our lives allows us to reset our emotional thermostat, catch our breath, rest, get some perspective, and start implementing some new strategies. Oh, I can hear the excuses now - I'm too busy for that, I can't get time off work, I don't
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Stress Tip: Give up the Battle and Win the War!

Spring comes late to the foothills of the Rocky Mountains, where I live. We had snow twice this month, and it is MAY! But now that the snow has thankfully retreated (and we pray it will stay gone for a few months), the first thing to pop up is dandelions. The war of the weeds is on! They are the first reminder that in addition to our regular work, we now have to maintain the lawn, garden, deck, exterior of the house, etc. For my plant-loving sisters, this is good news! They can't wait to start
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The Emotional Minefield of Sales

Sitting here disappointed in someone that I wanted to do business with. In a funk. A bad one. And pondering where disappointment comes from and why I feel so “icky” with our last exchange. Byron Katie (“The Work”) would say that we feel disappointment in someone’s behaviour when we expect it to be different than it is. If we can just release the expectation that it should be different, and learn to accept it exactly as it is, then we can release these negative feelings. I suspect that
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Stress Strategy: Recharge your Batteries

Do you know those people who seem to go, go, go all the time? Are you one of them? I used to be, until I got so burned out that I became physically ill. That one was one of several wake-up calls I received from the universe, and one of the things that made me realize that I had to change -- or die. I recently saw a friend who looked a lot like the old me. She was putting on a brave face, promoting her business, laughing and joking. But when no one was looking, I saw the truth -- falling
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Procrastination Slayer

To walk or not to walk, that is the question. Or maybe the question really should be, to reach my goals or not reach my goals? Why do I continue to procrastinate and not do what I said I was going to do to reach my goals? I’m not afraid of a little 30 minute walk on the treadmill, so why does it torment my mind so? What will it take for my morning walks to become automatic instead of a struggle? What am I making more important than keeping my word to myself? I could come up with valid
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Progress not Perfection

The problem with being open and transparent in my journey from Stress to Bliss is that people feel free to walk into my head, snoop around and make judgements based on their perceptions of where and how I am on this journey. Notice I said THEIR perceptions. Most people are well-intentioned – they seriously do not want to see me resorting to my old patterns of overwork and overwhelm. But let me ask you this, when someone asks you if you are sick, do you feel better or worse? If someone asks
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Stress Tip: Listen to Your Inner Voice

I hear voices. It's true - that small, quiet voice or thought in my head that is so easy to ignore, or to silence. But twice in the last two days I ignored that voice at my own peril. My hairdresser was recently closed for renovations for 3 weeks. And as a woman who just turned 51, three weeks is the outside edge of my grey-hairs-peaking-out comfort zone. So I made an appointment even before they were officially open, but one day before a major event - Mistake #1. Then after discussions
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